Gareth is nearly two and a half, he undestands what his potty is for, but refuses to do anything in it and still wears a nappy. He has very definate ideas about what is clean and what is dirty, so what can we do? Also, he never wants to take his dummy or comforter to creche, but has them at home all the time. What should we do about it, if anything?
Potty training is more important at this stage than his dummy, but there could be a link between the two. Maybe your son doesn't want to look grown-up in front of you and likes being a 'baby'? You have to try to make him want to be a big boy, don't associate the potty with his notions of clean and dirty (clean in the potty and dirty in his nappy). Tell him all the older boys use the potty, practise sitting on it with him, tell him a story so he feels comfortable in that position. Show him how to empty the potty into the toilet once he has finished, he will like the idea of an 'adult' activity. Be neutral and indifferent when he use his nappy, don't be angry even though you may feel frustrated. If you stay calm and be patient, he will eventually get there.