I'm about six weeks pregnant, but my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion, because we didn't plan the baby. I would like to know if this will cause me any psychological problems in the future (I want to keep our baby)?
We're both stubborn, but the longer I leave it, the harder I find it to make a decision. Thank you.
Having children is a great responsibility, which will have a profound effct on both of your lives. But you're the one carrying the baby, no-one else has any control over your body. The decision to abort your baby should be a joint one, but your partner must understand that you will bear the brunt of the after effects of your actions.
Finding out about an unexpected pregnancy is a shock for both partners, so make sure you sit down and spend as long as you need talking about it. Trying to understand each other's points of view will make the decision and its consequences easier for both of you. On the other hand, forcing you to have an abortion against your will is not a sign of love or trust. Don't forget that there are plenty of other couples out there who spend years trying for a baby.
No-one can tell you how an abortion will affect you psychologically in the long term, everyone is different.