"We only have sex twice a month. Does this mean we are not in love?"

There is no 'ideal' number of times a week or month to have sex, it depends on your lifestyle. Some busy couples may take the chance to make love a few times in one day or over a weekend, while others may find it easier to make time during the week. Work out what is best for you by thinking back to the beginning of your relationship, or when you started living together. If you still lead similar lives, with the same commitments and working hours, then there is no reason why you cannot fall back into the same pattern.

Try to think of creative ways to turn each other on, but if this doesn't work, then there may be problems you need to discuss. Think about any niggling irritations if there are no major issues, even the little things can have an impact on your sex life - you certainly won't feel like making love if your partner is driving you mad by leaving his socks all over your flat. Talk about whatever is worrying you, because you can't have sex if you can't communicate!

Maude Julien, Sex Therapist