"Because we are always tired from work, we hardly ever have sex any more. What can we do?

Being too tired for sex often hides something else.
Think back to when you first met, you had more sex and slept less, yet even after a long night you felt ready for anything. How? It is all down to endorphins, pleasure hormones released during sex, which give you an amazing feeling of well-being, even when you are tired.
We often confuse tiredness and laziness. Hold on to the romantic in you, carry on with the candle-lit dinners and days spent in bed, you will be surprised how energising they can be. If you have children, let yourself leave them with someone else every so often and go away for the week-end together. Lots of couples find that once their children have finally left home, they can reclaim their sex life, but you don't need to wait that long! Try the hints below:

- Too few people are afraid to talk about their sexuality. Don't just say 'I love you', learn to say 'You turn me on', too.
-Think about everything you find attractive in your partner and fantasise about it to put you in the mood.
- Don't stop making an effort with your appearance, especially in private. Enjoy your femininity and be sexy!
- When you are really too exhausted to make love, give each other cuddles before you sleep.
- When you feel sexy, show it! Tell your partner, act on it.
- Take every opportunity to make love if you feel like it, even a quickie in the shower or kitchen.

Remember that the less you make love, the less you will feel like it - the opposite is also true!

Maude Julien, Sex Therapist