"I feel degraded when I give oral sex. What can I do?"

Firstly, never do anything if you have tried it and really don't want to, or feel you have to. By learning about it why it gives men so much pleasure, you can rediscover oral sex and maybe even get some pleasure out of it yourself.

Very often, women are put off because they are afraid their partner's penis will smell. Take a shower with him and wash his penis, being carefull to wash all the soap away from under foreskin, unless he has been circumcised.
Next, stroke and lick it, be playful and lighthearted, you are not taking an exam. Start to stimulate him with your hand, moving it up and down the shaft, then when you feel ready, take it into your mouth. Go slowly, always moving one hand up and down his penis so you are in control. Try playing with his testicles at the same time or stop then start again, teasing him. Once you realise you are in control as opposed to being dominated, you will be more comfortable with the idea and may even enjoy it.

Maude Julien, Sex Therapist