Sex myths about men

The clichés about male sexuality are numerous and tenacious. Here are the main culprits.

Men never refuse sex, they're always up for it, they're never too tired after a long day at work and they never have headaches. In fact, they think about nothing but sex the whole time. Wrong! Men aren't robots: they get worried, stressed and sometimes they just don't feel like sex. They're just as affected by emotion as us, and emotion sometimes affects their libido. Less often, sure, but still. So no need to panic if he doesn’t feel like sex: it doesn't mean he doesn't fancy you any more.

 

No, not true ladies. It's not just women who fake it! OK, so we may fake it more often (4 times to his once), but only 47% of men achieve orgasm during vaginal penetration and 3% say that they have never had an orgasm during sexual intercourse.

Not necessarily (see myth number 2). Ejaculating and reaching orgasm do not always happen together, and vice versa. Some men reach orgasm without ejaculating (this is called a dry orgasm). But most of the time orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same, thank goodness!

 

Women still believe that men have only one goal in mind when it comes to making love – orgasm. But the modern man has risen above this and can be attentive with the preliminaries. Of course, from time to time you both want to get straight down to the act itself, but get it out of your head that men don't like foreplay. It allows them to forget about their performance and think about something other than their erection.

Women are quick to jump to conclusions when their man has a problem in bed. The large majority think that he doesn't fancy them any more, but there are many other reasons for a lack of sex drive or erection. 42% of men say they've had an erection problem. Stress, fatigue, shyness, worries etc can affect them, and should be taken seriously - another reason to think that men don't just function mechanically and their emotions do play a part.
 

Sure, they drool over women in magazines and on TV. These women are fantasies but they're not what all men are looking for. We all want someone attractive, but we also have many other criteria: brains, humour, elegance and inner beauty. And men aren't fools: they know that the supermodels in magazines aren't what real women are like. It's common to hear men say that they prefer natural women who are confident with their bodies, whatever size they are.

 

Some are, others aren't. It's a question of their character, not of sex. But the sensitive guy is no longer considered uncool and non-macho, and there's a place for gallantry and chivalry! Men are less afraid to show their sensitive side nowadays, which makes them far more romantic.