Oral sex: how to give the best blow jobs
Most men love oral sex. Some men even prefer a blow job to full sex. So as oral sex is such a big deal for the boys, we ought to know how to do it well.
Going down on, giving head, sucking off, mouth f***, there are plenty of ways to describe the act of oral sex, but they're all talking about the same thing - sexual pleasure, down there, using your mouth.
What is oral sex (blow job)?
To give the Latin name, fellatio, (aka blow job), is an oral sex act which involves stimulating the penis using the tongue, lips and mouth. Most men are fans of the blow job as it gives him intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm.
How to give oral sex:
As a rule, oral sex should mimic the movements of full sex penetration and while it's called a blow job - there's no blowing involved! Don't make that rookie mistake!
Instead, blow like a pro and take his penis into your mouth, (with plenty of saliva) and suck up and down his shaft mimicking the thrusting motion of penetration, taking care not to graze his 'friend' with your teeth. Remember when it comes to sucking him off, teeth are never welcome.
One thing men don’t like is mechanical oral sex, performed without passion. He wants to know that you're enjoying it as much as him, so vary your rhythm, speed and intensity. Try gently caressing his testicles and then try upping the pace for a few strokes. Take him to the edge then bring him back from the brink to get him revved up and eager for more.
Lick, suck and play with his erect penis using your tongue don't be shy to make eye contact too. To make sure you’re hitting the spot, watch and listen to his reactions. Ask him what he likes. All men are different and he'll be thrilled that you want to know exactly how to please him.
Giving good head isn't rocket science, but there are some top tips, tried and tested, that will help make your next blow job one to remember. Read on for the sofeminine secrets on how to be a 'head' mistress. Oh yeah.
Oral sex tip #1: Sensitive areas
To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive - the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum - the secret spot between the testicles and the anus.
He’ll also appreciate lots of attention around the shaft whether you use your mouth, tongue or hands, some good shaft action will get him closer to blowing his load.
Oral sex tip #2: Use your hands
If your partner's penis is on the large side you may find it more than a mouthful. Blow jobs can be difficult to perform on bigger penises but don't worry - you're not expected to be able to take it all the way down.
A simple trick to blow job success is to use your hand and your mouth together - which will feel good for any size of penis.
Use an edible lubricant
or your saliva to get things going moving and move your hand from the shaft (bottom) to the tip until he's really hard. Then add your mouth, taking him in as your hand moves up and down.
Oral sex tip #3: Involving other areas
Oral sex is about using your mouth to maximum effect, on his penis, and other areas too.
Try gently (very gently!) sucking on his testicles one at a time. Lightly kiss his inner thighs. Lick his super sensitive perineum (along the line between his anus and testicles). All added together he'll be totally under your control - a total turn on for you too!
Oral sex tip #4: Hot and cold
Blow jobs and oral sex should be fun so if you want to spice it up try playing with temperature and sensations.
Temperature play can be fun, so try taking a mouthful of warm tea, swill it around your mouth and swallow then take your man's penis into your mouth for 20 seconds and suck. Then take a mouth full of cold water and do the same. The difference in hot and cold will feel fabulous for him.
You can also try champagne, fizzy water, mint, ice cubes and ice cream for extra unexpected sensations.
Oral sex tip #5: Get saucy
Some women can't bare the taste of their man in their mouths which makes oral sex rather less enjoyable.
While performing a blow job you can add chocolate body paint, squirty cream or ice cream then spend time licking and sucking it off, or try a flavoured lubricant - Durex do a good selection.
Oral sex tip #6: Gagging
Gagging during oral sex isn't something to be embarrassed about. He'll think you're gagging because he's so massive and if you actually tell him that then you'll give him one enormous ego boost that he'll love you for.
If you find yourself gagging often then try using your hands as well - see oral sex tip 2!
Oral sex tip #7: Ejaculation
When he starts to come, there's the question of whether to swallow or not. You don’t have to: each to their own.
If you find the thought of sperm in your mouth revolting, don’t force yourself to swallow: it won’t make it any less pleasurable for him. Just make sure he withdraws in time.
Otherwise let him come in your mouth and then spit it out. Have tissues on hand to either spit into or mop up any spillage.
Some men like to come onto breasts, bellies or other parts of their partner but make sure you've agreed to this first - it's entirely your choice.
Of course you can swallow too - which brings us onto the subject of taste...
Oral sex tip #8: Ejaculation - improving the taste
Some foods and drinks do have an effect on the taste of your guys load.
Alcohol, caffeine, recreational drugs and nicotine all add a tang to your man's semen and make it taste like a bad night out. The day after a binge it's probably best to avoid blow jobs altogether!
Vegetarians have better tasting sperm but too much cauliflower, broccoli and asparagus can have a seriously negative impact - so get your guy to limit these foods if you're planning to swallow after an oral sex session.
Some foods to avoid are obvious - garlic and onions make our breath smell - and add a funky taste to our guy's semen too thanks to their high sulphur content.
If you want to sweeten his spunk try getting your man to eat plenty of fruits that are high in natural sugars - pineapple juice is a winner. Also sweet and fragrant foods and herbs like parsley, wheatgrass, celery, cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon can all make for a sweet oral sex session.
Oral sex tip #9: Sexually transmitted diseases
When giving (or receiving) oral sex, be aware that hepatitis B, fungal infections and other STDs can be passed on via oral sex and blow jobs. The risk of HIV transmission from performing oral sex is low but it can still happen. If you’re unsure of your partner's sexual past, use a condom.
Mouth infections can also be transmitted via oral sex and remember never to give head when you have a cold sore unless you want to give him herpes!
Oral sex tip #10: Overcoming reservations
Some women are repulsed by oral sex and blow jobs and don’t like the idea of putting their partner’s penis in their mouth, it's not for everyone - the idea is to both get turned on from the experience.
If it makes you feel more up for it try having a shower together as part of foreplay so that you can nice and clean before you get dirty.
If you still don’t feel comfortable with giving oral sex, remember there’s no point forcing yourself: he’ll feel it if you’re not happy and won’t get as much pleasure out of it.
The goal is shared pleasure and excitement. Talk to him about it and you might find you change your mind in time. Blow jobs should be a pleasure for both of you, knowing you're turning him on is a turn on in itself.
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