Oral sex for him

Stimulation
Fellatio, or a blowjob, is an oral sex act which involves stimulating the penis using the tongue, lips and mouth. It gives him intense sensations and can bring him to orgasm. A 69 is a position combining fellatio and cunnilingus (female oral sex). Once a taboo act only seen as something done by prostitutes, oral is now a standard part of foreplay for many couples.

Technique
As a rule, fellatio should mimic the movements of penetration. Take his penis into your mouth, taking care not to hurt him with your teeth, and stimulate the movement of sex with a back-and-forth motion. One thing men don’t like is mechanical oral sex, so vary your rhythm, speed and intensity, caressing gently for a while and then upping the pace. Lick, suck and play with his erect penis, and to make sure you’re hitting the spot, watch his reactions. Don’t be shy about asking him what he likes.

Sensitive areas
To make him go weak at the knees, linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensistive, especially the glans, which has lots of pleasure captors. He’ll also appreciate lots of attention around the shaft (the bottom bit that links his penis to his body), and the head is hypersensitive.

Ejaculation
When he starts to come, there's the question of whether to swallow or not. You don’t have to: each to their own. If you find the thought of sperm in your mouth revolting, don’t force yourself to swallow: it won’t make it any less pleasurable. Just make sure he withdraws in time! Otherwise let him come in your mouth and then spit it out.

Seuxally transmitted diseases
Note that AIDS, hepatitis B, fungal infections and other STDs can be passed on via fellatio. If you’re unsure of your partner's past, use a condom. Mouth infections can also be transmitted via oral sex.

Overcoming reservations
Some women are repulsed by fellatio and don’t like the idea of putting their partner’s penis in their mouth. Try having a shower together as part of foreplay so that you can give every nook and cranny a good clean! If you still don’t feel comfortable with it, remember there’s no point forcing yourself: he’ll sense you’re not happy and won’t get as much pleasure out of it. The goal is shared pleasure and excitement. Talk to him about it and you might find you change your mind in time.