my friends have said that their first time were awful. What can I do
to make it enjoyable?"
Both men and
women are afraid of losing their virginity, as it represents an important
change in you.
Don't panic, your first time is never going to be the best! And it
certainly won't have any bearing on the rest of your sexual career.
The most important
thing to remember is that the vagina must be properly lubricated,
so don't rush things. Make sure your partner knows you are a virgin,
so he enters you carefully.
Wait until you really want to have sex, don't just do it becasue you
have reached a certain age, or because everyone else is doing it.
It has nothing to do with how old you are, more how much you want
to do it, so wait for the right time, (if not the right person).
position is best for your first time, as you can easily guide his
penis in with your hand and wait for the right moment. This position
will allow you vaginal muscles to relax too, being too tense could
cause pain or discomfort.
Julien, Sex Therapist