Caroline: "I want to make the most of life"

Caroline is an advertising manager and is 29.
I've been with my partner for 10 years and we got married two years ago, but we're not planning on having children. We want to make the most of our life together - go travelling, go out...Even just trying for a baby is stressful. It's a constraint. Once the baby's there, it takes up all your time. Besides, I want to put everything into my career . I want to be seen as a woman and a hard worker rather than a mother. I live life to the full and aside from work I play lots of sports, which I'm not ready to give up! We've been working for 5 years now but we still live like students, and I wouldn't change it for the world!

Our psychotherapist says: 
Caroline has made a choice, like more and more women are doing: a choice between family and career. This is a problem society has to cope with. Women who really want children generally end up having them, sometimes to the detriment of their career, but not always. Other women use work to mask their desire not to have children. Blaming it on work makes them feel less guilty and less like a monster, which is wrong: it's far more selfish to have children when you don't want them.