Paula, 33

I'd got to the point where I hardly orgasmed any more - only very rarely or after lots of foreplay. It depressed me totally and I felt like a freak. 

I read something about the role of fantasies in your sex life and how they can help bring you to orgasm, and decided to try it out at home! A quick erotic fantasy while we're having sex is enough to tip me over the edge. 

I realised over time that I was stifling my own sex life by not allowing myself to think freely about sex and what I like. I think I even thought I was deceiving him by having my own sexual fantasies. Nowadays sex is totally different and we're both much happier for it.