Emma, 37, chef

"I didn't fancy Paul (27) the first time I met him, but one night at a party we let go of our inhibitions a bit and we got together. He was so much more subtle than men of my age, who often come on too strong. He takes real care of me, and physically we're very well-matched - no question of intimidation or anything like that. There's never been a problem with our friends either, though sometimes we do get looks from people in the street. And the hardest thing is thinking about the future: is our love really strong enough to break all the taboos? But for the moment, we're enjoying ourselves and who knows where it might lead?"

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• Emma, 37, chef
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