Oliver: "oral gives totally different sensations"

Oliver, 39, is a civil servant and is happily married.

To be perfectly honest, getting a blowjob gives you a totally different sensation and I'd be extremely disappointed if my wife didn't like giving head. But at the end of the day, sex is about giving and taking, so I would accept it if she didn't want to...

Cunnilingus seems more natural to me than blowjobs, I don't quite know why! I think blowjobs are more taboo because of the way we talk about them, for example when a guy says "blow me" or "suck my ****" it's pretty pejorative to women and it's not a nice way of thinking about it. But how you talk about it kind of depends on your age and  your situation - I probably used not-so-nice expressions to talk about sex when I was younger too. 

Giving and receiving oral sex isn't the be-all and end-all and it takes time and help from each other. We need to talk about it more because it can still seem a bit of an unknown quantity at times, but it's totally natural.