Accept your body, self-esteem, complexes, hang-ups

We all have our hang-ups (big and small!), but there's no point in bringing them up all the time and drawing attention to them. Nothing is guaranteed to turn him off more than things like: "Don't look at my bum, it is a bit flabby but I'll go to aerobics tomorrow" or "I know my boobs are small but they look better in a Wonderbra, right?".

He's not your best friend. He's not your therapist. He's not there to reassure you about yourself: he's there to share your body and enjoy sex with you. Put yourself in his shoes: how would you feel if he was constantly beating himself up and pointing out his less-than-perfect bits to you? It's just not attractive! The fact that he's with you must prove you're what he likes, so stop being so disparaging about yourself. And stop hiding away in polonecks and constricting your breathing to hold your stomach in when you're getting intimate!

The happier you are with your body, the more you'll both get out of sex.

Our advice: Think like Sharon Stone, who once said in an interview that at the crucial moment, men have other things on their mind than looking out for cellulite. Relax!