We're talking about expressing your desires and pleasure here. It'll encourage him and give him useful directions to take you to the clouds above. For shy types, little sighs of satisfaction and handy pointers, as simple as "here, there, higher, right there" are a step on the way! More verbal types can let him know he's doing it right with cries of ecstasy, and can give more specific instructuions such as: "I love it when you touch my breasts" or "It drives me crazy when you put your hands there" or "I love it when you kiss me down there." You get the picture.

Once you get into the game, you'll soon lose those inhibitions and you might find yourself surprised at the language you find yourself using! Everyone's a winner here: he'll be flattered and encouraged into being even more enthusiastic about pleasing you. Many men admit to being turned on by hearing women cry with pleasure or use vulgar language in bed. And if you express yourself properly you won't need to bite your lips with pain if his idea of 'stimulation' feels as if he's scrubbing a floor or scrabbbling in his pocket for loose change...

Our advice: Don't give him military orders! You don't want to scare him off or scare him out of doing what you want im to do. And if he's a delicate, romantic flower then talking dirty might not sound like music to his sensitive ears!