Our image of a modern relationship is one of balance, trust, understanding and mutual respect. The modern couple make decisions together and treat each other as equals, with no power relations, in bed or elsewhere.

But in reality it can be more complicated, and old ways of thinking and acting in love, borrowed from our grand-parents(!), can affect that modern balance. How do you see your relationship? How do you handle money, housework, social life and kids? Who makes the decisions? Are you the dominant force or are you dominated? Click here to take part in our survey and find out how your relationship compares.