I don't like acting out my fantasies

Fantasies are very personal and the kind of fantasy which stimulates us depends enormously on our sexual history and experiences in life.  It can be hard to understand your own fantasies, but trying to get your head around someone else’s which may be completely different, can be even more difficult.  Either you’re both on the same wavelength and enjoy acting out your fantasies, or you’re not, in which case trying to act them out could leave you feeling silly, dirty, or simply bored.

Having said that, seeing your partner turned-on can be a powerful stimulant, which can help you get into the mood of the fantasy.  As long as you don’t find the idea repellent, it won’t hurt to join in – you never know, you might enjoy it more than you think!  Remember though, that you should never feel forced to do anything that you don’t want to do.