The solution

Being dirty just doesn't do it for some men

> Ask him for help
"If you need help, ask for it! He won't offer it of his own accord because it simply doesn't occur to him!”, says our expert. Men don't clock on that fridges get empty and need to be filled, and underwear drawers magically get filled with clean socks and pants when you leave them on the floor. Men may be curious creatures by nature, but not when it comes to housework: it just doesn't interest them.

> Be appreciative
Give him a gentle chore (or one that doesn't seem too difficult) and say you can't do it all on your own (men like to be needed). Something along the lines of: "Could you help me with the hoovering/putting the shopping away/take the bin out? I'd really appreciate it". To motivate him, suggest something to do afterwards.

> Let him do what he likes doing
"Rather than simply sharing the housework, I think each having their own chores is important," says our expert Dr Neuburger. "Suggest dividing the tasks up according to who does what well". So if he can cook pasta, but hates washing up, come to an agreement and agree to do the dishes while he takes the rubbish out. And be clear about the chores you take turns doing: shopping, hoovering, changing the bed, etc.

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