The solution

Men are more receptive to suggestion after orgasm

> Keep quiet
Dr Neuburger: "You need to know what you want: do you want to be the person who's right or do you want things to change? If he doesn't want to talk, then keep quiet. There are many other ways of communicating with him than talking. Men are more sensitive to what they're shown than what they're told".

> Seduce him
Go back in time to when he was the light of your life (when you hadn't met his mum yet?!). You used to win him over with sexy lingerie, subtle make-up and pheromone-loaded perfume. It's a tried and tested formula, so use your secret weapons if you have to! "Men are most receptive after sex," says Dr Neuburger. "The calm after intimacy is a good time to tell him nicely what you have to say". Hang on! You need to sleep with him to get what you want? Isn't that a bit manipulative? "Whoever said that you have to be sincere and loyal in a relationship?" says our expert. "Manipulation takes place with words as well!". OK, so be unscrupulous...and there are other times when it's good to talk: after a great night out, a cosy dinner à deux, a fun weeken away, and whenever he's relaxed and likely to be open.