Winning back a cheating other half

Lucy-Anna, 30, sales rep

Joe's the love of my life and has been ever since I first laid eyes on him. I know I'd forgive him anything. When he doesn't pay me enough attention, I make excuses for him, and when he forgets my birthday, I'll suggest we go out for dinner. I know for sure he loves me; he just doesn't know how to show it, which is why I end up making the effort for the both of us. 

"I didn't want to lose him"
When I found out Joe had been having an affair, obviously I was furious. But we talked about it and I understood why. He said he loved all the attention I paid him but that I was forgetting myself, and he was right. I needed to pay more attention to myself. I'd turned into a frumpy mum in a tracksuit, nothing like the girl he fell for! I decided to win him back. I started going to the gym, wearing more sexy clothes and caring about my appearance. My girlfriends told me I was a doormat, but I'm just in love with him and I didn't want to let him go. It paid off: we're still together, and he's not looked at another girl since.

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