Jealousy arousing desire?

You’ve been feeling totally secure about your relationship, so when he cheats you suddenly realise that he doesn’t belong to you and that you don’t have sole possession of him any more.

OK, so maybe he’s done you a favour and it’s time to kick him out, but you also have to take stock of what you’ll lose if you dump him, and you’ll find out how much the relationship means to you. This can even bring back your sex drive. If he means that much to you and you don’t want to lose him, it can be a powerful stimulant! It’s a very common and totally natural reaction.    

You might be surprised by the strength of your renewed sexual desire. Of course, many women feel only disgust for a man who has been with another woman behind your back, or they see him in a different light, knocked off his pedestal, and can’t get beyond these feelings. And in any case, there are obviously problems in your relationship if he has cheated, which you need to sort out if you’re going to give him another chance. But at the end of the day, if and until it happens to you, you never know how you’ll react and there’s no easy way to deal with it.