Threesomes: 3somes with a man and a woman
Just a few moments into the 'what's your ultimate fantasy chat' and you can bet your bottom dollar that one of your man's turn on's is having three-in-a-bed - and he's not alone - 98% of straight guys find the idea of a threesome damn sexy.
A major part of the appeal for a guy is the fact that having a threesome will earn him enough man miles to impress his mates until he's old and grey. Having two women at the same time is the stuff of legend, a conquest to be proud of. Being able to satisfy two women in the same shag session is a super power in itself, so for guys the ego massaging potential of a threesome is irresistible.
But for us girls, it's a bit different. Joining forces with another woman to satisfy our man is a little degrading - aren't we enough on our own?
The thing to remember is that the fantasy is more about the machismo earnt than anything else, but it can be a sexually enlightening experience for a couple - pushing your boundaries and exploring any bisexual fantasies of your own.
Should you have a threesome?
Before taking the plunge it's important to talk about whether you could handle the reality of a threesome. The fantasy part is easy - the real life three-in-a-bed scenario is a bit more intimidating. For you and for your guy.
While being able to experiment together could make you closer as a couple, there's always a chance you could feel jealous of the way another woman is stimulating your man, or you could feel pushed out.
For your man, being able to see to the needs of two women can be a bit terrifying and after having bashed so many out with this one sexual scenario in mind, the reality might not be quite as he had imagined.
Talking about your expectations and fears, and communicating clearly are essential. You may find that you value what you have too much to risk changing the dynamics of your relationship for one night's sexual fantasy, but likewise you may feel it's demonstrative of how much you value each other's sexual needs.
Being sure of your decision
You need to be really sure that you're not just having a threesome to be cool, to prove something or to satisfy your man.
In a relationship, you need to have complete confidence in him and not feel jealous towards your "guest." However, if it's you who's the guest, the risks are minimal.
Beyond the threesome itself, make sure you're sure that you'll be at ease with a woman, otherwise you might have to think about threesome alternatives - like you with two men rather than your man with two women. Sounds better already right?
How to choose your partner(s)?
If you're in a relationship, it's probably best to choose someone you're not likely to see regularly again, not a friend (too much jealousy is possible) and no work colleagues (imagine the atmosphere at work)! And make sure you use protection with them, and that they're all checked and clean - you don't want your threesome experience to have enduring side effects...
If you're the "guest" choose a couple who you respect and who you feel comfortable with and ideally, who you fancy!
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