Your heart beats wildly, your eyes sparkle, your hands get clammy and you go all gooey...love at first sight is known to many! But when you meet someone who you instinctively feel is The One, you need to transform initial passion into long-term love.
Dreams and reality
In the heat of the moment, love
overwhelms us and affects our judgement. We idealise and make him out to be gorgeous, intelligent, sensitive, attentive...perfection in the form of a man. Well, take a step back: disillusion could be on the way! What are his real qualities? Without going over the top, think about his personality and watch his reactions to various situations with a neutral eye. This way, you won't get carried away and you'll be more realistic about him.
Take your time
So it's all going well, you're happy in your relationship
and you think he’s the love of your life. However, don’t rush into making plans for your future together too fast. Talking kids
and marriage can wait, surely? Enjoy the magic and make it last. Go on holiday together to get to know each other better - this doesn't commit you to anything and is a good way to road test how compatible you are without moving in with him!
Carpe Diem – seize the day!
Enjoy being in love and make the most of it. Don’t get bogged down with too many questions like ‘Does he really love me?’. Have confidence in yourself and in him, and listen to him. Don’t talk to him about your ex. The past is the past. And don't spoil things by openly comparing your new love with your previous boyfriends.
Crazy love and passion can be destructive. Don’t neglect your friends, your life or your job for your new man. When you fall madly in love, you tend to forget the rest of the world exists and his needs seem to become more important than your own, which is a negative attitude to have in the long term. So be yourself, because he was attracted to you and you shouldn't change what he fell in love with!