Foreplay

Published on 17 January 2008

Knowing how to have red hot foreplay is one way to make sure that the main event is better than ever for the both of you.

Foreplay tips: 10 tips for red hot foreplay

foreplay tips Investing some time and effort into your foreplay techniques can go a long way and with that in mind we've rounded up the best sex and relationships experts out there to share their advice on mind blowing foreplay - things are about to get sexy!

Dr. Pam Spurr author of Sex Academy says, "For no holds barred pleasure the best foreplay really teases your partner increasing their desire meaning they're far more likely to climax."

Foreplay is all about the anticipation. There's a time and a place for a tease and when you're warming up before getting down, there's no better time to use this to your advantage.

So if you're looking for ways to fire him up, or for some all important inspiration for things he can do to you, read on for some OMG foreplay tips!

Top 10 foreplay tips for the of you:

1. Eastern swirl and poke: Dr Pam suggests a little trick that your man can use to make you go wild.

"When you've started foreplay and you're kissing and caressing, he should move on down your body and use the ‘Eastern Swirl and Poke’ kissing technique," she explains.

"He relaxes his lips and allows his tongue to swirl around the tips of your nipples. Then he alternates this sensation with a gentle poking action from the tip of his tongue. This is one hot foreplay tip that he can move on down your body to use on you for oral-sex pleasure."

2. Go for the grind: Emily Dubberly, founder of Cliterati.co.uk says it's all about the grind to get you all worked up.

"Rather than going purely for penetration or clitoral stimulation, try grinding against your man's thigh or opt for some good old-fashioned dry humping," she suggests. "That way, you can stimulate your pubic mound and way more of your clitoris than usual - it can work just as well with your clothes on as off."

3. Moves like a movie star: Being a bit of a tease is a good thing when it comes down to foreplay, and Emily says when you're getting down to it, why not try and keep up the anticipation for an entire film!

"If you want to really turn your guy on try lubing your hand thoroughly then gripping and releasing your man rather than sliding your hand up and down - it'll slide in your hand of its own accord and make it easier for you to keep going for longer.

Position your thumb on the frenulum (the stringy bit that runs from the head to the shaft) as it tends to be the most sensitive. Try teasing him for an entire film, stopping just before climax then starting again for a truly explosive finish."

4. For his ears only: When it comes to your guy, sometimes you can forget that it's not just about stimulating the obvious areas. Dr. Pam suggests you move your attentions elsewhere:

"A much neglected erogenous zone for him is that delicious area we ladies love to have stimulated - behind the ears and the earlobes. Create some new sensations for him by stroking this area with your fingertips as you kiss.

Better yet if you have long nails gently scratch and tickle behind his ears. Now trace a line with your tongue around his ear lobe - if you feel like it, start whispering the beginning of a hot fantasy scenario into his ear." Trust us, he'll be up for anything you want after that.

5. Experiment with new sensations: Christina Wellor, Sex and Relationships Expert and columnist for GQ says the trick to fiery foreplay is playing it hot and cold.

"Mixing it up with hot (try massage candles or hot drinks) and cold (play with ice cubes) temperatures is a fun and easy way to provide an invigorating twist on your favourite foreplay techniques, like massage and oral sex," she says.

"An icy tongue on the tip of his penis or a hot mouth enveloping it, will make a blow job even more mind blowing than usual."

6. Mix it up: Christina says:"Couples' tend to favour certain foreplay techniques and that's fine, but try mixing them up a bit.

Break away from the usual order of events and take each other by surprise from time to time. When you suspect your partner is getting comfortable and used to a particular rhythm or sensation, break off and do something else to them. The element of surprise will catch them off guard and heighten their levels of sensory experience and excitement."7. Oral Sex for him: Sex and Relationship expert Rachael McCoy spills her sexiest secret for mind blowing oral sex for him.

"The key to this is teasing! Don’t go straight in for the goodies. Get on your knees looking provocatively into your partners eyes, part his legs and slowly lick his inner thighs in long, soft stroking motions.

Blow over the area that you’ve just licked to create a different sensation and then lay soft, warm kisses getting closer and closer towards his naughty bits. Use your hands to run over his chest, abdomen and thighs using a firm pressure. The contrast of firm and light pressure will have him just about ready to explode waiting for you to get your mouth around him."


8. Mutual Masturbation: This might not be one for everyone, but Rachael says mutual masturbation can be a huge turn-on.

"If you're nervous, start by setting the mood with some saucy music, candles and dressing in something seductive to boost your confidence.

Make sure that you're comfortable and start to touch and stroke your skin, all over your body using the front and back of your hands. Watch your own hands as they glide over your body and then look up every so often to give him a cheeky smile.

When you’ve built up enough anticipation, look him dead in the eye as you start to please yourself. Make sure to show him what you're doing when you're enjoying yourself before bringing yourself to full on climax. You doing this shows confidence which is incredibly sexy. It’ll be a naughty experience that will be very hard to forget!


9. Arousing the senses: Being blindfolded can be a super-kinky way to take your foreplay to the next level.

Rachael says: "Take turns to blindfold each-other and caress and tease one body part at a time with as many different textures as possible. Try using ice, feathers, some silk, a paddle or whip and experiment with different techniques and sensations."

Heightening all of your senses will make each touch extra intense!

10. Bondage: Last but not least it's a bit of bondage. Rachael says: "Sit your man on a chair in the middle of a room and tie his hands behind his back. Get some sexy heels on and an eye catching outfit and provocatively walk around the chair gliding your hands over his body as you go.

When you’re ready sit on his lap facing him with your legs straddled around his waist. Dominantly move his head to one side as you lick and gently bite his neck and earlobes.

Then wrap your arms around his shoulders and gyrate over his bulge without letting him enter you, with your breasts pushed against his chest until he begs to be untied."

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