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This 100-year-old Sex Therapist Has An Important Message About Sex

by Maria Bell Published on 3 September 2014
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When you think about your average sex therapist you probably wouldn't picture them as a 100-year-old woman. But Dr. Shirley Zussman, the centenarian sexpert, is the exception. The US sex therapist has over 50 years of experience between the sheets and she's got some interesting insights about modern-day relationships we could all use.

Modern relationships are tough. Despite being a lot more open-minded than when she first started, Zussman believes our sex lives as a society haven't improved all that much. Sometimes we wonder if it's easier to just sit back and embrace the impending loneliness and £5.99-a-month Netflix fee, than actually try to have a sexual relationship.

But in her recent interview with TIME magazine, Dr Shirley Zussman explains the one thing we're all missing out on - "the most common problem is see is a lack of desire, a lack of interest".

Although she says that there's been a big difference in idea of casual sex, there is so much less actual physical connection between people nowadays that we're missing out on what we actually need from sex. She says that people have to work in order to be desirable to their partners and half the time we're too knackered or absent to put in the effort.

​"Because in the long run, sexual pleasure is just one part of what men and women want from each other. They want intimacy, they want closeness, they want understanding, they want fun, and they want someone who really cares about them beyond just going to bed with them.”

So in order to get that back, she says it's all about figuring out what's important. Basically it's time to switch off the i-Phone to turn on your partner. Go figure.

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