1. A negative mindset only goes so far
Having a negative mindset in life may not surface in a relationship at first, but when she clocks that this is how you are 24/7, everything's gonna change. Nobody wants to live with someone who’s constantly complaining and putting a downer on things.
2. Make us feel safe
One of the most valuable aspects of a relationship is feeling safe with your other half. We’re not asking you to have confrontation after confrontation, but WE ARE asking for you to make sure that we feel safe when there’s a need to intervene. Little things like making sure to call us when we’re making a late night dash to the store or giving us a lift back when we call for your help - it all makes a difference. Be our knight in shining armour - we want to know we could count on you for anything.
3. We’re not pushovers
We’re not saying all men think this, but some definitely do. We will make ourselves heard and we will fight for what we deserve. Sometimes we have a weakness of letting men get away with things for too long but when we make our minds up it’s game over boys.
4. We don’t want a doormat
Don’t be the type of dude that’s afraid to make his feelings known. We want a man who knows what he wants and can articulate it without coming off as controlling or a know-it-all.
5. Let us confide in you and more importantly…
…confide in us. We know girls like to talk A LOT but if you can tell if something’s bothering us, ask.
6. Sometimes we need reassurance
Girls get bouts of insecurity sometimes. ‘Is this working?’, Does he really love me?’ and ‘Is he really serious about us?’ These are the most common questions that come to mind. Don’t shrug it off, give us the reassurance we need to feel secure.
7. It’s all about teamwork
It takes TWO for a relationship to work - it’s not all about you anymore, it’s about thinking what’s best for you and your partner, and sometimes, putting them first. Compromise is key in any relationship.
8. We want you to be happy
There’s nothing we want more than to make you happy. Your happiness is a part of who we are. If you’re not happy, neither are we…
9. We have high expectations
A girl who knows her worth will demand nothing less than she deserves. So expect nothing less than THIS. Respect, trust, honesty, value and selflessness are the most important to us. And if that's too much to ask for then you're not the guy for us.
10. Insecurity is normal
Everyone has pitfalls of self-confidence, yup, even men! So don’t roll your eyes when we’re not feeling our best or don’t feel as confident as we should. You’re not there to help her feel worse about herself, make sure she knows how great she is, she’ll only do the same for you!
11. Periods suck more than you know
Girls aren’t faking it when they say they say they feel like crap when TOM (tom of the month) arrives. Stabbing cramps, bloating and generally feeling icky is not someone’s idea of a good time. Cut her some slack.
12. We need space too
We believe relationships stay strong when we dedicate time outside the relationship. Whether it’s friends, family or just getting some very much needed me time, women need their space too and so do you.
13. A lack of effort can kill everything
Neglecting certain aspects of relationships such as affection, sex or even communication can make a once great relationship fail. If you shut yourself out from her and can’t even provide the real basics of a relationship, resentment will boil. Do what you need to do. Relationships require work.
14. Be courteous
If you’re out with some mates and you get back at 6am, don’t keep your girl waiting up wondering where you are. She WILL stay up until you’re back - we’re natural worriers. We want nothing more than you to have a good time, but try to make sure you check in once in a while. Being courteous can go a long way.
15. Know how to deal with our emotional cascades
It’s true, women are emotional creatures, so (as long as we’re not crying every day) don’t just accept tears as a normal girl thing. Women need your affection the most when they’re upset. Be there for us.
If we’re panicking or stressed out about something, comfort us, don’t just tell us to deal with it or that we’re being 'silly'. Saying something simple like ‘Everything’s going to be alright’ or ‘You’re going to be just fine’ can really make a difference and shows us you really care. Hold us and listen - it helps.
17. Make us feel special
If she's chosen you out of ALL the men in the world to commit to then there better be a good reason right? Even for you. Don’t forget how special she is to you and most importantly, don’t forget to REMIND her.
18. Stop overthinking everything
Girls hate it when guys think logically about their relationship. Like they say, 'love is pain and pain is love'. Stop asking your head questions and start listening to your heart.
19. We’re your #1 fan
We want to be there for you through thick and thin. If you’re passionate about something so are we. Remember, we’re your cheerleader.
20. Money isn’t always on the brain
Some guys think that women find money sooo important. Well, that’s actually not true, there are way more important aspects in a relationship to us, such as, your commitment to commitment, your loyalty, respect, and your trust in us. Those are only a few - money is nothing if you can’t have any of that. We don’t need your money to make us happy.
21. Tell me you love me
Don’t forget to tell her how much you love her. Making someone feel loved is so simple yet so difficult at times. Remember, we can’t read your mind, if you feel it, say it.
22. There’s a limit to everything
Women put up with things longer than they should, especially when they’re passionate about something, but don’t underestimate this as a weakness. When we know that walking away is stronger than holding on, we WILL walk away and we won’t come back.
23. Checking out other chicks
You think someone’s attractive? Fine, but there are ways of appreciating someone else’s beauty without making the other person your with feel any less wanted. Think about it.
24. Be yourself around us
We want to love you for who you are. Being yourself and totally letting your guard down is really important to us. The good, the bad, the embarrassing - you name it - just be YOU. That’s what makes loving you so damn special.
26. Be a hopeless romantic
We’re not asking you for romance all the damn time, we’re just asking you to keep that little flame alive once in a while. Write us a love note and leave it on the bed for when we wake up, cook our favourite breakfast in bed or send flowers to our office. Be thoughtful.
27. We only want one thing
Both men and women are desperate for ONE common thing. LOVE. That’s all that matters.
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